Your partner just said those two words that changed everything. I’m pregnant. An unplanned pregnancy can be a difficult experience for anyone, even guys.
While the focus often falls on the woman carrying the child, you play a vital role, too. Even the smallest actions can make a big difference in supporting your partner during this challenging time.
Here’s what guys can do when faced with this situation.
Process Your Emotions
It’s normal to have a range of feelings, like shock, fear, or uncertainty. You likely weren’t prepared for this, and it’s okay to feel what you’re feeling. Take time to sit with those emotions.
Talk to someone you trust, a friend, a family member, or a counselor, to ease the burden and work through your situation. Understanding your emotions helps you approach this stressful time with a level head.
Communicate with Your Partner
Open, honest conversation with your partner is key. Ask how she’s doing and share your thoughts, too. Remember, whatever you’re feeling, she is likely feeling even more. Try to actively listen rather than trauma-dump on her—she will need your strength to get through this.
This isn’t about forcing a decision but understanding where you both stand. Whether it’s parenting, adoption, or another path, being on the same page, or at least hearing each other out, builds a stronger foundation.
Explore Your Options
You can be instrumental in figuring out what comes next. Parenting might mean stepping up financially and emotionally. Adoption could involve researching agencies together. If she’s considering abortion, listen to her perspective and weigh in respectfully.
By helping with the research phase, you’ll be reducing your partner’s workload and showing your investment. Consider costs, timelines, and resources for each choice.
Offer Practical Help
Being involved doesn’t stop at the decision. If you’re parenting, start planning—think about housing, jobs, or even parenting classes. If it’s adoption, support her through the process.
Even small acts of kindness, like attending appointments, cooking dinner, or helping with errands and chores, show you’re in it together.
Find Support at Carolina Pregnancy Center
You don’t have to go through this by yourself, and Carolina Pregnancy Center is a great place to turn. We offer limited ultrasound and medical-grade pregnancy testing to confirm the pregnancy and check its progress.
It’s a no-pressure spot to get facts and explore your next steps. Guys are welcome to join their partners for appointments so you can both get support. By staying engaged and seeking support, guys can navigate this with strength and care.
Make an appointment today—help is just a click away.